Estrangement or Engagement: When family therapy helps vs. hurts.
Estrangement from family members has become something of an epidemic in the U.S. A grim reality for many parents of adult children who have decided to 'cut off' from family…
When to do Individual Therapy during EFCT Couples/EFFT Family Therapy
There are some instances where it is recommended for one or both partners to see an individual therapist during ongoing EFCT/Couple or EFFT/Family Therapy. 1. Ongoing Substance Abuse/Dependence Problems, also…
Challenges with ongoing substance use while in couples therapy
Emotionally Focused Therapy for couples gets to the heart of connection through deep emotional processing that builds attachment between partners. That said, if one or both partners use substances…
Individual Therapy during Couples Therapy and What to Know
Providing couples or family therapy, even as a Certified EFT therapist, can be challenging when partners or family members are working concurrently with their own therapists, especially if long-term. While…
Mental Health Benefits of a Secure and Happy Relationship
A happy and healthy relationship affects all aspects of one’s life. So, depending on how your relationship problems are manifesting, you may experience some or many of the following as…
Demon Dialogues
When it comes to arguing couples tend to fall into certain patterns called the 'Demon Dialogues' (click on the link to learn even more). EFT helps us identify where couples…
How Our Past Family Generational Trauma Affects Us Today
As we learn more about trauma from our childhood, recent science studies shows us trauma is passed down through the generations. This is important because safe, loving connections helps reduce…
Addiction and Attachment
What we thought we knew about addiction is not quite right as evidenced by the research indicated in this amazing video by Johann Hari, as he shares how imperative attachment…
EFT and Negative Cycles
We all become caught in negative cycles, the EFT term for arguments, from time to time, but when couples first come to see me, they are caught in them more…
EFT Meaning
"If we can reveal our inner vulnerability to our partner, we can have a corrective emotional experience if our partner empathically and compassionately responds. So I can say to you,…