The following recommended EFT on-line programs, books and resources can help augment the couples therapy when couples are experiencing difficulty in their relationship. This can be especially helpful when you are waiting to be seen for therapy and will help you prepare for the process. The most resent and powerful resource ‘Hold Me Tight online’ program, allows you to watch the videos together and do the questionnaires together or, depending on the state of the relationship, you may need to do them separately. Even if one of you watches, reads or listens, that can still be helpful since it takes one of you to slow down the cycle. Please be reminded, that these resources do not replace the effectiveness of Emotionally Focused Therapy done by a Certified Emotionally Focused Therapist such as Carol Corcoran, LCMFT, LMFT, but it is a great way to understand your ‘negative cycles’ and learn more about your attachment style as well as the EFT process.
Emotionally Focused Therapy is a powerful, deep therapeutic process that creates lasting change in the relationship. When combined with these recommended resources, the changes can be profound. Again, these resources cannot replace the effectiveness of Emotionally Focused Therapy but do help facilitate the process.
As a way to manage during the COVID pandemic and when couples are waiting to be seen at CHC, this amazing ‘Hold Me Tight on-line’ program can help each partner understand their respective role in their negative cycle and as well as their attachment styles. The videos are brief, engaging and highly informative. This process will help couples move through Stage One (which has four steps) of EFT and prepare the couple for Stage Two.
‘Hold Me Tight’ by Dr. Susan Johnson is a must read for any couple embarking on the journey of reconnecting and rebuilding their primary relationship. It is my first recommended reading for any couple beginning couples therapy for several reasons. Number one, the book helps one understand the science and research behind EFT, because it is not some fly by night couples therapy approach, but has deep empirically based, scientific roots. Second, Dr. Johnson lays out the dances couples become caught in found in the section entitled ‘Demon Dialogues’ which enables couples to see that they are not alone in their dances and can start to identify when they become caught so they can stop these demon dances. Third, the deeper core wounds or attachment injuries can and do occur as a result of the negative dances and she gives hope on how to help couples move through the hurts. Using this book alone to change your relationship, especially when you have been caught in pain and disconnection for some time, can help but it is not enough. It will help to facilitate your process when combined with Emotionally Focused Therapy.
Developed by Dr Sue Johnson over 20 years ago and practised all over the world, EFT has been heralded by Time magazine and the New York Times as the couple therapy with the highest rate of success. Couples who use EFT see a 75 per cent success rate.
The therapy programme focuses on the emotional connection of every relationship by de-escalating conflict, creating a safe emotional connection, and strengthening bonds between partners.
In Hold Me Tight, EFT pioneer Dr Sue Johnson presents her highly effective therapy model to the general public for the first time. Through case studies from her practice, illuminating advice and practical exercises, couples will learn how to nurture their relationships and ensure a lifetime of love.
This hands on must read, resource helps couples begin the process of building a foundation of new ways of connecting together. While Hold Me Tight is an excellent primer for therapy, this workbook will help carry the couple throughout the therapeutic process to really integrate the experience of therapy and build more safety between sessions. Reading and doing the exercises in the book together, between sessions, helps each partner better understand themselves, their partner and their relationship, and the deep connective work they have done in the session. The reason I recommend this book so strongly is because I noticed that couples who integrate the workbook into their therapeutic process, build more safety and connection within their relationship and thereby progress through the therapeutic process more quickly. Oh and BTW, I have utilized the book within my own relationship and really enjoyed getting to know my husband even more as well as learning more about our negative patterns and how to change them.
Are you looking to enrich a healthy relationship, revitalize a tired one, or rescue one gone awry? This book helps you do both and to incorporate the teachings of God into your marriage. We all want a lifetime of love, support, and faith. But sometimes we need a little help.
Enter Dr. Sue Johnson, developer of Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and “the best couple therapist in the world,” according to bestselling relationship expert Dr. John Gottman. In CREATED FOR CONNECTION, Dr. Johnson and Kenneth Sanderfer, a leading EFT practitioner in the Christian community, share Johnson’s groundbreaking and remarkably successful program for creating stronger, more secure relationships not only between partners, but between us and God. CREATED FOR CONNECTION will ensure a lifetime of love.
Shirley Glass helps both the person who cheated and the one who was cheated on understand one another’s experience through empathy and awareness.
This is a book has been recommended by the EFT community to help work through affairs. Many wounded partners cannot put this book down and it is usually devoured when an affair has been realized. Please take it slow and toggle back and forth with ‘Hold Me Tight’ otherwise it can be too much at one time. Caution: Creating a timeline of the infidelity, will potentially create more PTSD symptoms, making it harder to heal. I am not suggesting that the events be ignored, they, in fact, need to be processed with the partner in a way the partner can hear the pain, not just the rage.
Once an affair comes to light, many unfaithful persons “wake up” and want to save their marriages. Yet, they usually make terrible mistakes in their bungled attempts to win back their partners’ trust. Linda J. MacDonald, an infidelity specialist for 23 years, has identified behaviors and attitudes that determine unfaithful persons’ success or failure to mend their marriages after the wrecking ball of an affair.
Have you ever wondered “Why did I do that?” or “Why can’t I just control my behavior?” Others may judge our reactions and think, “What’s wrong with that person?” When questioning our emotions, it’s easy to place the blame on ourselves; holding ourselves and those around us to an impossible standard. It’s time we started asking a different question.
This amazingly informative and insightful book helps individuals and partners who struggle with the leading eating disorder in the country, binge eating disorder. This book will help you understand what drives this disorder and how and who we can turn to for love and support. At the end of the day it all comes down to connection and where we lost it, and how we try to fill it with food rather than love and support.
The anniversary edition of this beloved bestseller is celebrated in Prefaces by Oprah Winfrey and Maya Angelou and contains a new Foreword by the author, website links, and a new Study Guide to help readers find even deeper meaning and fulfillment.
The Seat of the Soul encourages you become the authority in your own life. It will change the way you see the world, interact with other people, and understand your own actions and motivations. Beginning with evolution, Gary Zukav takes you on a penetrating exploration of the new phase humanity has entered: we are evolving from a species that understands power as the ability to manipulate and control—external power—into a species that understands power as the alignment of the personality with the soul–authentic power. Our evolution requires each of us to make the values of the soul our own: harmony, cooperation, sharing, and reverence for Life. Using his scientist’s eye and philosopher’s heart, Zukav shows us how to participate fully in this evolution, enlivening our everyday activities and all of our relationships with meaning and purpose.