Having working in the field of psychotherapy for 25 years, I am well aware of how early childhood adversity, abuse and neglect can affect our health and success later in life. Taking the A.C.E. Test can help you understand your score, but pay attention to the Resiliency Test that follows in this article linked here. […]
Health Magazine Touts EFT for Couples
Even the prominent mainstream magazine Health (October 2019) speaks to the effectiveness of Emotionally Focused Therapy when it comes to help for couples in distress.
Addiction and Attachment
What we thought we knew about addiction is not quite right as evidenced by the research indicated in this amazing video by Johann Hari, as he shares how imperative attachment is for recovery. Here is another informative, yet brief video entitled ‘Rat Park’ to help you better understand the power of connection when it comes […]
EFT and Negative Cycles
We all become caught in negative cycles, the EFT term for arguments, from time to time, but when couples first come to see me, they are caught in them more frequently then not. These negative cycles are more than toxic and can literally hijack the relationship, creating anger, distrust and disconnection. This Youtube video by […]
How to Find the Best Couple Therapist for Your Relationship
At last, you’ve made the decision to find the right couple therapist focused on helping you with your relationship, but now you are faced with where to turn and whom to turn to? Like most of us, you head to the internet, only to be bombarded by counselors, therapists, social-workers, psychologists, you name it, all […]
EFT Meaning
“If we can reveal our inner vulnerability to our partner, we can have a corrective emotional experience if our partner empathically and compassionately responds. So I can say to you, “Here I am with all of my blemishes.” And if I can experience that you love me, in my nakedness I begin to feel lovable. […]
The Costs of Divorce vs. the best Couple Therapy
Awhile back, you discussed couple therapy with your partner, but for whatever reason, it didn’t happen then. Turns out most couples come to therapy a good 6 years later then when it would have been ideal to start. But, because the negative cycles between you were so bad, you couldn’t even decide on someone together, […]
What can you expect from EFT for couples?
Being caught in a relationship where your needs are not being met and where you don’t feel heard or understood, is debilitating. Now there is help in the form of Emotionally Focused Therapy. Couples who successfully complete the process of Emotionally Focused Therapy counseling can expect many of the following results: Improved communication Feeling supported and […]
Who is EFT Couples Therapy not intended for
If you and your partner are experiencing the following problems, EFT is unlikely suited for you until these issues are resolved: Domestic Violence/Intimate Partner Violence In cases where the couple has ongoing and current relationship violence or aggression, therapy may ill advised or may be seriously contraindicated, as this could pose a safety issue. In […]
Which couples are best suited for EFT Therapy?
Couples struggling with one another by finding themselves in the same circular fights again and again. Partners who don’t know how to communicate their deeper feelings with one another and are stuck in anger or shut-down. Partners who are so frustrated with their relationship and yet, not sure what to do next. Recovery from affairs, […]