This is a new video on how partners become stuck in the negative, interactional cycle where pursuers are a bit like badgers and withdrawers become more like turtles. A great way to learn about the negative interactional cycles where one pushes for contact and the other avoids connection.
Demon Dialogues
When it comes to arguing couples tend to fall into certain patterns called the ‘Demon Dialogues‘ (click on the link to learn even more). EFT helps us identify where couples become stuck called ‘cycles’ or ‘patterns’. Once identified, it is helpful to understand how we get caught and then slow it down.
How Our Past Family Generational Trauma Affects Us Today
As we learn more about trauma from our childhood, recent science studies shows us trauma is passed down through the generations. This is important because safe, loving connections helps reduce the effects of trauma on our psyche and can be healed with EFT Couples Therapy. This article by Scientific American helps us better understand the […]
The Roller Coaster of Emotion in Couples Therapy Book
The Roller Coaster of Emotion in Couples Therapy Are you considering couples therapy? Reading The Roller Coaster of Emotions in Couples Therapy will help you understand the benefits of couples therapy. This book allows you to enter the process of couples therapy. You will have an intimate view of couple and therapist as they work […]
Binge Eating Disorder Book
Binge Eating Disorder: The Journey to Recovery and Beyond by Amy Pershing with Chevese Turner This amazingly informative and insightful book helps individuals and partners who struggle with the leading eating disorder in the country, binge eating disorder. This book will help you understand what drives this disorder and how and who we can turn […]
How to Find the Best Couple Therapist for Your Relationship
At last, you’ve made the decision to find the right couple therapist focused on helping you with your relationship, but now you are faced with where to turn and whom to turn to? Like most of us, you head to the internet, only to be bombarded by counselors, therapists, social-workers, psychologists, you name it, all […]
What can you expect from EFT for couples?
Being caught in a relationship where your needs are not being met and where you don’t feel heard or understood, is debilitating. Now there is help in the form of Emotionally Focused Therapy. Couples who successfully complete the process of Emotionally Focused Therapy counseling can expect many of the following results: Improved communication Feeling supported and […]
Who is EFT Couples Therapy not intended for
If you and your partner are experiencing the following problems, EFT is unlikely suited for you until these issues are resolved: Domestic Violence/Intimate Partner Violence In cases where the couple has ongoing and current relationship violence or aggression, therapy may ill advised or may be seriously contraindicated, as this could pose a safety issue. In […]
Which couples are best suited for EFT Therapy?
Couples struggling with one another by finding themselves in the same circular fights again and again. Partners who don’t know how to communicate their deeper feelings with one another and are stuck in anger or shut-down. Partners who are so frustrated with their relationship and yet, not sure what to do next. Recovery from affairs, […]
Rethinking Narcissism
The Bad-and Surprising Good-About Feeling Special In ‘Rethinking Narcissism,’ Dr. Malkin presents narcissism on a spectrum, too much is problematic and too little, it turns out, is a problem as well. Like most things in life there is a balance. But what really stands out here is that old thinking that once a narcissist always […]