Turtle and the Badger as it relates to EFT negative cycles
This is a new video on how partners become stuck in the negative, interactional cycle where pursuers are a bit like badgers and withdrawers become more like turtles. A great…
Demon Dialogues
When it comes to arguing couples tend to fall into certain patterns called the 'Demon Dialogues' (click on the link to learn even more). EFT helps us identify where couples…
How Our Past Family Generational Trauma Affects Us Today
As we learn more about trauma from our childhood, recent science studies shows us trauma is passed down through the generations. This is important because safe, loving connections helps reduce…
What can you expect from EFT for couples?
Being caught in a relationship where your needs are not being met and where you don't feel heard or understood, is debilitating. Now there is help in the form of…
Who is EFT Couples Therapy not intended for
If you and your partner are experiencing the following problems, EFT is unlikely suited for you until these issues are resolved: Domestic Violence/Intimate Partner Violence In cases where the couple…
Rethinking Narcissism
The Bad-and Surprising Good-About Feeling Special In 'Rethinking Narcissism,' Dr. Malkin presents narcissism on a spectrum, too much is problematic and too little, it turns out, is a problem as…
How long does EFT Couples Therapy last?
While there is no exact answer to this question, the research shows that Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) has been demonstrated to help couples without histories of trauma, affairs, addictions, and…
An Emotionally Focused Workbook for Couples: The Two of Us by Veronica Kallos-Lilly and Jennifer Fitzgerald
As an Emotionally Focused Therapist who works with couples in distress, I have been recommending this book as an adjunct to the couples work since it's arrival. I do this…
Couples Counseling for Affairs
After helping many couples where there has been infidelity, one of the sure fire ways facilitate the early process of reconnection, is for the partner who had the affair to…
What is the difference between Neediness and sharing your Needs?
So the topic of expressing needs vs. being needy came up recently and I thought this was such an important issue that 'needs' to be more fully explored and understood.…